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The lasting and greatest legacy any parent can bequeath to these precious children is the reinforcement of positive behavior in the child for the purpose of rendering quality and excellent service to humanity in any of the spheres they find themselves. Reinforcing positive behavior nonetheless is never achieved by mere intention to confess, teach, or train, but by being responsible enough to have the right mind to do so. Having the right mind to do is to have and engage the will power as primary caregivers to display exemplary lifestyles worthy of emulation for the kids.

Having said this, I believe one of the beautiful products of POSITIVE VALUES everyone desires in our society is RESPECT ! So what is RESPECT?

Google defines it as a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements.

Giving it amplified definition we can say it is a sense of worth or personal value attached to someone. This presupposes no mankind is born empty. Every one of us has gotten innate talents and skills to bless others. So if we must do the core duty of our assignment diligently on earth which is to serve humanity we must equip ourselves with life skills to pursue this and same passed to our children. All these are not done in abstract! Do we as parents respect ourselves, our children , or people around us?

Our children have been branded a generation that has no respect for themselves, the ederly, and the society. They look at adults straight in the face and emphatically say no to whatever instructions regardless of the intentions of the adult. They haul abusive words on elders at the slightest given opportunity. We see children these days fight themselves with all sorts of weapons! Violence to them is normal and a trending order which they must comply with.

As I daily engage families from all walks of life in this advocacy I have come to see a huge value gap between what we claim to be before the Children and what we actually are. Ever wondered why they get bored when they are with us?. Our actions are a sharp contrast to whatever we tell them. Same behaviors resonate in their lives in view of what they see us do. But what must parents do to groom, nurture, and raise generations of children who will imbibe the right values to respect themselves, elders, and society?

Kindly permit me to share few nuggets with us in this medium on what I believe parents will begin to do more inorder to infuse in our children life skills on how to respect others.

Respect your parents. Honor your father and mother, that you may have a long, good life in the land. This we must display for our children. The child that witnesses how disdainful we are to our parents will not know the value in respecting you caregiver and others. It is not good to insist that your child’s tone of voice and actions reflect honor toward you and others if you don’t show or fail to simulate same to them how it’s done.
Tell them your story. Every 21st century parent seems to have a perfect upbringing even when we are not. So if we fail to let our children know our past toxic childhood experiences and exuberance we once had we’d be ignorantly invariably presenting a fake life to them and when they see anyone leaving a social life not measured up to theirs they tend to disparage, denigrate, and belittle such person. Children will always remember your lineage story especially those difficult circumstances, experiences, and backgrounds you had to cope with while growing up.

Place more value on people around you than material wealth. How do we treat our workers? How do we talk to neigbours? What do we say of childrens’ schools, teachers, and others in their school environment ? How do we react to negative situations in the country? The root of honoring and respecting people will only sink deeply in childrens’ lives if we consistently place value in our relationship with people than what we do with materiality.
Treat your children with tenderness. Children remember acts of tenderness and same is likely going to be reproduced in their relationship with others. Comparatively angry words and insensitive actions will resonate in their lives. Children are good recorders of our spoken and unspoken words but the worst processors. Our tone of voice must communicate love, compassion, and empathy.

Gently admit to them when you have wronged them. This will go along way in building their self esteem, self worth, and interpersonal relationship skills and builds up their emotional intelligence.
I always submitt that values and good characters cannot be taught but can be caught. By who?. By our children and those we claim to be leading! Our children are our representatives. What we do they do. Sons want to act like fathers and girls want to behave like their mothers and also look up to see their Dads’ characters in their future husbands. What values system do we possess as parents that are strong enough to teach the children value of RESPECT? Let’s chexk ourselves.

Let us impact the world and simulate how respect is being caught than taught to them in our daily engagement.

Thank you.

Invasion is defined as a state of invading a country or region with force. The objective of invasion is to conquer, liberate, or re-establishing control or authority over a territory. This is the whole nature of invasion.

From the definition it is obvious what validates invasion is the word force. But for the purpose of this work and for better understanding of the central theme I’d like to introduce us to a new dimension by which invasion derives its strenght and this is done through the power of subtlety called attitude. Yes our attitude. Our body languages, spoken and unspoken words at times speak louder that no one hears a word we say. While majority of us attributes invasion to force quiet few of us have only come to the reality of how strong individual’s attitude can be as an influential weapon of invasion.

How do parents invade? What constitutes invasion in parenting? You’d ask! One of the many qualities the person occupying the office of the parent must have is to know his/her limitations in parenting administration. Regardless the higher office one occupies there are limits. The commonest way by which we unleash our attitude to invade kids lives is through our involvement in the way we perform our oversight functions

I have heard it over and over again that parents should get involved in kids lives. It has been proven to be the best technique to get the best out of kids. This is evidently needed for the purpose of mining and nurturing every bit of their innate potential.

No doubt our involvement seeks to provide  the lead, guide, and chaperone, in the way kids should go. The whole essence understandably is to make them familiar with the terrain of life just like a duck take to water.

To a greater extent our children’s success or otherwise depends on the quality of time, resources, and energy, dissipated to harness their abilities to productive ventures.

Please think with me as I explain few nuggets on stages to exercise cautions as our precious kids grow up.

• Examining. Every task given to kids requires close monitoring but we often inadvertently mistakenly use this to gauge the level of their excellence as against their peers. We at times go nuts, over analyzing every cough, twist and turn. I urge us to refrain from this and just balance the job. Evey child’s gotten their speed.
• Correcting. This is stage where we may be tilting to being obsessive as parents. Reason being that parents want the best for their children. It is possible kids may find it difficult to comprehend with the instructions on how to accomplish a task given by parents but we must allow them to fashion out their permissive methods they can easily adapt to. The purpose afterall remains to get the job done. This isn’t to condone an act of laziness though. Let’s watch this keenly.
• Shielding. We soon come to their aid from making reasonable risk. But they need to experience appropriate level of  risk and failure in order to mature in a healthy way. Otherwise we will be progressing brazenly in error of preparing the path for them instead of kids for the path.  Example given, we should introduce them early enough to cooking, going to the market, and engaging in a moderate freedom of association but under appropriate supervision.
• Guessing. It is wrong to get suspicion over what kids are innocent of. Where this normally takes place is the adolescent stage. Entrying adolescence has no general rule as to the age. Some enter at early age while majority at preteen. Adequate parenting knowledge is required to unravel this because certain behavioral traits will be noticed and that shouldn’t mean waywardness. Savvy lifestyles and different vocabulary soon replaced their innocence. I have seen an eight year girl entrying adolescence early enough but unknown to parents they felt she’s been obdurate in her attitude. Thanks for timely intervention that neutralized their fear. Parents be careful. This unfounded opinions can breed distrusts, wariness, and lack of confidence in our parental acumen.

Here’s my thought. Why not engage kids and determine what they mostly care about life, then offer guidance. Patience is equally needed from us which we are often guilty of. We want quick compliance for us to have peace.  This won’t always happen.