Service to humanity

My first appearance today in 2022, as a Mediator in a voluntary capacity at the Citizens Mediation Centre,(Ministry of Justice) Alausa, Lagos state.

Don’t just get mad at that age-long dispute. Get a mediator and experience peace.

We have Mediation Centres close to you anywhere you are in Lagos state; Ikeja, Lagos Island, Badagry, Iba, Ojo, Ojokoro, Ikotun, Bariga, Epe, Eredo, Alimosho, Amukoko, Agege, Ikorodu, Ibeju Lekki, Yaba, and Ikosin Ejirin

The mission is to serve as a non -adversarial dispute resolution centre through the use of the Mediation process…

‘Legal profession fit me small that 💪 😀

So, please do remember to visit any of these centres in case you need a mediation service.

Kudos to the Lagos State government!

Thank you

Akinropo Akinola

Ask questions

To my fellow-men; I am happy to write you this short letter to you today.

It’s been a while I have communicated to you and a lot we have both been missing as a result of this unforced error on my part

So, a friend of mine gisted me of an argument that ensured between a couple. The wife innocently asked her husband why he chose a type of corporate dress on a Friday as against his usual dress down. Apparently, this question infuriated the husband who snarled at her why would she ask such a question. The husband suspected a sinister move and wasn’t happy about that. But the wife insisted she never meant harm. But all to no avail. The husband hinged that moment to a trust issue. But it is not

Please, may I remind you, that some women are gifted in noticing everything around them, including how their men dress per time? So, this is one of the rare gifts of the wife here but unknown to her husband

Should you have this kind of woman in your corner, do appreciate that gift and not give it a name that doesn’t exist on their radar. If in doubt, ask questions to understand

I hope this helps my fellow men 😀

Thank you ❤



Our early emotional life is formed after the pattern of the nature and nurture we experienced and grew with. So it is not out of place our mind may have been wrongly or rightly wired to live by the scripts of those who raised us and the institutions we were exposed to as children by our parents, uncles, aunties, teachers, imams, Pastors, religious belief, cultures, traditions, and value system…….even when the reality of Today, presents otherwise in line with new experiences, new environments, and new perspectives, yet we aren’t bothered

You see script is the arbiter of life; it is the molder and shaper of life. In every occasion, we are the recipients of its results.

Many of the problems people face in marriages, parenting, and career stem out from script conflicts. Couples take into marriage the culture, values and beliefs they seem right and okay as thought, seen, and Learnt of their parents/caregivers, hence the conflicting role expectations.

We see today’s kids in the way we were 40 or more years ago. We find it edgy to trust colleagues and business partners just because we were told as children not to trust anyone regardless of what the other persons brings to the table.

The environment we lived and experienced as kids somehow contributed in no small measure to our being closed minded thereby making it easier for us to be somewhat receptive in nature to new developments. As adults, we find it so rigid and steely to trust the next person, our bosom friend(s) inclusive. Some adults who were born in the period of civil war 1968-1971 were mostly influenced by parents not to trust any other tribe, religion, and ethnic, aside theirs. Many of us hates some political actors and business leaders in Nigeria today, dead or alive on account of what we were told of them by our parents and friends, and not what we knew or experienced of them.

We were taught not to argue, locked up in our closets by our parents and teachers, we were so bound up, so squatted down. We were conditioned and programmed as chosen as well-behaved students and acknowledged as obedient children both in the school, and home. What a classical example of a deprivative theory against our social life.

At infant, if we opened our very small mouth to cry, a feeding bottle was hastily used to muffle our cries. We have been thoroughly tamed and conditioned to be quiet all time, and this has invariably affected every sphere of our lives, from family and parenting, career, job, relationship, marriage, beliefs and religion.

Until we intentionally subject ourselves by carrying out evaluative procedure to further scrutinize various developmental stages of our progress from childhood the desired change we crave for may be a mirage after all.

It is high time we knew how powerful and extremely influential our scripts are; they can make or mar the humanity in us, but the good news is that we can learn to rewrite them if need be, decking out a new garment of a new tailor made script we can be proud of by identifying with new models and embrace open mindedness. It is possible.

Thank you!

Akinropo Akinola
Parenmark School of Parenting.



The four ethical truth of justice, righteousness, sincerity, and kindness, are as good in your parenting journey as the foundation of your life. No one builds a 25 storey building on a bungalow foundation. It is simply dead on arrival. The taller the proposed building is, the deeper your foundation. The foundation of integrity is where the edifice of your character as parents are raised. Your obvious integrity before your children is beyond mere academic conviction that you are reliable; it presupposes a personal relation to the object of confidence to believe you.

So as parents our thoughts and actions are shaped after these ethical truth, if at all we have them. They connect the dot in the performance of our duties both within and without in strict adherence to the true nature of humanity. Parenting is you. What you exhibit is what the children emulate. Children are the best recorders of actions but the worst interpreters. Kids with their impressionable minds are able have their antennas all out at once.

Such foundation of integrity will serve as a grooming ground surrounded by nutrients of ethical truth where children are purposely raised in the way they should go. The children from this soil will invariably bring honor to themselves, the parents, and the nation as a whole.

Walk the talk; lay a foundation of integrity for your children.

Akinropo Akinola
CEO, Parenmark School of Parenting