HOW CAN I RAISE MY SON TO BECOME GOOD HUSBAND AND GOOD FATHER?
Participant: Akinola, please, how can I raise my son to become a good father and good husband ?
Me: Sir, by deliberately raising humans in him. The humanity in him will make him to be good father and good husband and many more.
I am used to the above question from parents and we must be careful not to fall into the performance trap of making ‘raising boys to become good fathers or good husbands’ the focus. No, it is not. Raising sons to be good fathers is just the tip of the iceberg, the real deal is below the surface.
For instance, it would be easy to think that the Banking industry is all about financing, interest rates, credit facility and accounting. While these elements are significant, they are only the tip of the iceberg. What makes the Banking industry is the word TRUST. It’s stuff below the surface. The lesson here is; our sons must first become humans(by growing with ingredents below the surface) before they become good fathers or husbands.(tip)
It is what is below the surface that will either sink or support the tip. Only humans make the best husbands and fathers
Being humans will make them excellent in all facets of life; singlehood, career, and relationships, not just in fatherhood.
We must nurture them with good values which will later validate the ultimate purpose of being humans.
The skill, character, and charisma needed are huge during their formative years. parents must be ready to feed them with these qualities unequivocally
I encourage someone here to start with this simple assessment with his/her son:
Guide him to take a minute and think about his own character. Ask him, does he have a strong character.? On a scale of 1 – 10 (10 being the strongest) tell him to rate himself in the following areas:
Self-discipline( ability to do what is right when your parents/teachers/adults are not there)
1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10
Pay attention to whatever outcome the assessment produces.
This is the starting point.